Why blog about single parenting?

I’m Becky, single parent to three children for over a decade. Even after all this time and so many momentous events, one statistic passed onto me by a family member, as I was still reeling and shell-shocked from my marriage break-up, sticks with me… 10% Apparently, I was told, ‘Research shows that children from single parent households do 10% less well than if they had remained in a two -parent family…’ 

It is just the sort of irresolute and cruelly-catchy figure that stays in your head and on a dark sleepless night of worry elbows its way to the front of your consciousness to feed this thought…

Will we always be 10% less good than we could have been as a two-parent unit?

Has it made me feel defeated?Made me feel like a victim? Made me feel apologetic and not quite as good as my happily married friends and their families? I think that, on occasion, it definitely has. You’ll read, for example in one of my first posts (D Day) about how shocked I was when my Eldest child scored a set of stellar GCSE results that were … every bit as good as all those ‘other children’. Yes, in front of my eyes, my teen trio are fast growing into warm, clever, kind and all round fantastic individuals and I realise that it is not only high time for me to claim that I shall cast aside this notion of single parenthood as the consolation prize of family life. No I need to make active positivity a regular daily routine so that family time does not pass me by and and, instead, I relish the adventures and the highs and lows that lie ahead. That will be my unique way to focus on ‘smashing’ this wonderful and crazy life.

And this blog will be my diary; a creative chance to capturing our precious family times the wonder of the everyday and a concrete reminder to keep thinking positive on a weekly basis. So, here goes! To life, to love, to blogging…